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Something doesn't feel right

For when a relationship, friendship, or situation feels off before you have the perfect word for it — gaslighting, control, jokes that hurt, isolation, and the line between conflict and abuse.

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Estimated reading time: 62 minutes

  1. What Is Gaslighting? (and What It Isn't)

    Gaslighting can leave you doubting your memory and judgement. Learn how to recognise this form of manipulation, distinguish it from ordinary disagreement, and consider safer ways to get support.

    8 min read
  2. Understanding Coercive Control

    Coercive control can gradually restrict a person's freedom through rules, monitoring, threats and dependence. Learn how to recognise the pattern, distinguish it from ordinary boundaries, and consider safer ways to seek support.

    9 min read
  3. When "It's Just a Joke" Stops Being Funny

    A joke can bring people together, but it can also be used to embarrass, exclude or intimidate someone. Learn how to recognise the difference, respond safely and reconsider humour that causes harm.

    8 min read
  4. Emotional Manipulation vs Healthy Conflict

    Disagreements can leave people upset without being abusive. Learn how to recognise when guilt, fear, silence or blame is being used to pressure someone, and what respectful conflict looks like.

    8 min read
  5. Love Bombing and Healthy Affection

    Intense attention at the beginning of a relationship can feel exciting. Learn when affection may be crossing into pressure or control, and what respectful affection looks like.

    7 min read
  6. Isolation: When Relationships Become Smaller

    When contact with friends, family and everyday activities gradually disappears, it is worth asking why. Isolation can be a form of control, but understanding the circumstances matters as much as noticing the change.

    8 min read
  7. Recognising Controlling Behaviour

    Controlling behaviour can affect who you see, how you spend your money, what you wear, and whether you feel free to make ordinary decisions. Learn how to recognise concerning patterns, distinguish care from control, and consider safer ways to seek support.

    8 min read
  8. Healthy Disagreement vs Emotional Abuse

    Disagreements happen in healthy relationships too. Understanding the difference between ordinary conflict and emotional abuse can help you recognise when arguments become harmful.

    6 min read

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